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We went to the shiva for Ray tonight. (The funeral was yesterday, so this was the first one.) They had a good-sized crowd, mostly members of their congregation (I assume). A few other SCA people were there.
I had failed to give some SCA friends a heads-up that there would be a short service there; I hope they weren't too uncomfortable. The service was actually longer than what I'm used to, for three reasons: (1) Reconstructionists include more liturgy than we do; (2) the leader was having the group do the "let's all read this passage together" thing in a number of places, and that's always slower than just one person reading; and (3) the leader threw in other commentary along the way.
After that was over we spent time talking with the family members. Esther seemed to be very glad that we were there. It sounds like Ray's last few days were frustrating but not painful. She seems to be coping ok so far, at least in front of other people.
One of the people I met at New Light a couple weeks ago was there, and I spaced on where I knew her from and had to be told. Oops. Context is everything, I guess. (She turns out to be a relative of an inlaw.)
The SCA household has a dinner scheduled for tomorrow night. Esther is in that household, so I was semi-expecting the dinner to be cancelled in deference to the shiva, but I haven't heard anything about it. So I don't know what our plans are for tomorrow evening at this point -- maybe going to the dinner and leaving early enough to go to the shiva?
I had failed to give some SCA friends a heads-up that there would be a short service there; I hope they weren't too uncomfortable. The service was actually longer than what I'm used to, for three reasons: (1) Reconstructionists include more liturgy than we do; (2) the leader was having the group do the "let's all read this passage together" thing in a number of places, and that's always slower than just one person reading; and (3) the leader threw in other commentary along the way.
After that was over we spent time talking with the family members. Esther seemed to be very glad that we were there. It sounds like Ray's last few days were frustrating but not painful. She seems to be coping ok so far, at least in front of other people.
One of the people I met at New Light a couple weeks ago was there, and I spaced on where I knew her from and had to be told. Oops. Context is everything, I guess. (She turns out to be a relative of an inlaw.)
The SCA household has a dinner scheduled for tomorrow night. Esther is in that household, so I was semi-expecting the dinner to be cancelled in deference to the shiva, but I haven't heard anything about it. So I don't know what our plans are for tomorrow evening at this point -- maybe going to the dinner and leaving early enough to go to the shiva?
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Of course, it helped considerably that there wasn't anything (at least not in those parts that had English translations) that I had theological problems with; I imagine it would be much more awkward for Jewish friends trying to respectfully attend a Christian memorial service.
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