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Friday night there was a bat mitzvah at services. I would be really, really happy if the congregation would institute two rules for Friday-night b'nei mitzvah: (1) no "parental greeting", and (2) the kid's d'var torah must be longer than the thank-you section.
When we have Saturday-morning b'nei mitzvah, which is practically every week, it's mostly a family affair. (There is another Shabbat morning service, and it's where the regulars go. These facts are related.) But the Friday-night service really belongs to the entire community, and it is not fair to make it so much about one person. I mean, the student already has a significant role in the service, and we even read haftarah on Friday for a bar/bat mitzvah (we usually don't), so losing some other elements will not minimize the simcha. What removing these elements would do is take away the family-specific stuff -- the stuff they could well do at the party instead -- so the congregation isn't held hostage. I mean, is it really appropriate to make us sit there for eight minutes of the parents going on about how proud they are? Sheesh! (No exaggeration; I timed it.)
Saturday morning one of our occasional attendees (a young man) told me that he's moving to Arizona in a couple weeks. It sounds like he's connected with the community there, which is good. I would be intimidated by moving, alone, across the country. I wish him well, and I told him to send email when he gets there.
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lefkowitzga's to hang out and play games, including the longest hand of Uno I have ever played. I was getting droopy around midnight (and knew we'd be meeting my parents in the morning), so we left around 12:30 or so.
Today was my father's 65th birthday. Our anniversary was a couple weeks ago. So we all went out to brunch and each of us thought we were treating the other. It was pretty funny. They gave us a nifty cheese knife and a very good vegetable peeler (Cutco). Good tools in a kitchen make a big difference! We took the cheese knife (along with some cheese) to Ralph and Lori's this afternoon; the knife was excessive for the soft cheese we were bringing, but the geek factor of playing with sharp objects prevailed. :-)
This afternoon was the annual bunny melt (and high tea). It was much fun, and we had vast quantities of food. The cats mostly behaved, though one of them (I assume Louie, but I didn't see it) attempted a close encounter with the remains of the fondue and was tossed across the room for his sins. Or so I gather; I wasn't in the room at the time.
I discovered this afternoon that I am still having hardware problems. My CD burner won't burn, and reading from a CD in the drive for more than about 30 seconds (I was attempting a software install) causes the machine to reboot. More side effects of the meltdown, I presume. It's all under warranty, but I don't want to be without my machine for several days again. Given that it's followup from the last repair, I'd really like it if I could make an appointment for a specific time to get it looked at. In other words, I want to wait in line at home. I'll bet I can't, but tomorrow I will call and ask.
Tonight Dani and I watched two more episodes of B5 (first season), "Signs and Portents" (important episode) and "TKO". I didn't care for "TKO" the first couple times I saw it, but this time it worked pretty well for me. (I never disliked the shiva plot; it was the martial-arts plot that didn't do anything for me.)
I had a geeky moment with the former plot. There is a point where someone says she's going to recite the "mourner's prayer" in English instead of in Hebrew. Last time I asw this episode I remember thinking, on hearing the English, "hey, that's not the mourners' kaddish". This time I recognized it for what it was (El molei rachamim). Cool; I'm getting literate. :-)
When we have Saturday-morning b'nei mitzvah, which is practically every week, it's mostly a family affair. (There is another Shabbat morning service, and it's where the regulars go. These facts are related.) But the Friday-night service really belongs to the entire community, and it is not fair to make it so much about one person. I mean, the student already has a significant role in the service, and we even read haftarah on Friday for a bar/bat mitzvah (we usually don't), so losing some other elements will not minimize the simcha. What removing these elements would do is take away the family-specific stuff -- the stuff they could well do at the party instead -- so the congregation isn't held hostage. I mean, is it really appropriate to make us sit there for eight minutes of the parents going on about how proud they are? Sheesh! (No exaggeration; I timed it.)
Saturday morning one of our occasional attendees (a young man) told me that he's moving to Arizona in a couple weeks. It sounds like he's connected with the community there, which is good. I would be intimidated by moving, alone, across the country. I wish him well, and I told him to send email when he gets there.
Saturday night after dinner we went to
lefkowitzga's to hang out and play games, including the longest hand of Uno I have ever played. I was getting droopy around midnight (and knew we'd be meeting my parents in the morning), so we left around 12:30 or so.Today was my father's 65th birthday. Our anniversary was a couple weeks ago. So we all went out to brunch and each of us thought we were treating the other. It was pretty funny. They gave us a nifty cheese knife and a very good vegetable peeler (Cutco). Good tools in a kitchen make a big difference! We took the cheese knife (along with some cheese) to Ralph and Lori's this afternoon; the knife was excessive for the soft cheese we were bringing, but the geek factor of playing with sharp objects prevailed. :-)
This afternoon was the annual bunny melt (and high tea). It was much fun, and we had vast quantities of food. The cats mostly behaved, though one of them (I assume Louie, but I didn't see it) attempted a close encounter with the remains of the fondue and was tossed across the room for his sins. Or so I gather; I wasn't in the room at the time.
I discovered this afternoon that I am still having hardware problems. My CD burner won't burn, and reading from a CD in the drive for more than about 30 seconds (I was attempting a software install) causes the machine to reboot. More side effects of the meltdown, I presume. It's all under warranty, but I don't want to be without my machine for several days again. Given that it's followup from the last repair, I'd really like it if I could make an appointment for a specific time to get it looked at. In other words, I want to wait in line at home. I'll bet I can't, but tomorrow I will call and ask.
Tonight Dani and I watched two more episodes of B5 (first season), "Signs and Portents" (important episode) and "TKO". I didn't care for "TKO" the first couple times I saw it, but this time it worked pretty well for me. (I never disliked the shiva plot; it was the martial-arts plot that didn't do anything for me.)
I had a geeky moment with the former plot. There is a point where someone says she's going to recite the "mourner's prayer" in English instead of in Hebrew. Last time I asw this episode I remember thinking, on hearing the English, "hey, that's not the mourners' kaddish". This time I recognized it for what it was (El molei rachamim). Cool; I'm getting literate. :-)
b'nei-mitzvah talks
Sad, isn't it?
At least in my congregation, the b'nei mitzvah d'var torah follows this formula: "my portion" (rarely the actual name, for some reason), summary, brief commentary. It's almost always around 3 minutes, total. Now granted, I don't think they would particularly want a kid to go for 10-15 minutes even if he was good, especially on Friday night when the b'nei mitzvah has already lengthened the service quite a bit, but I could hope for more than (on average) 1 - 1.5 minutes of original thought. Then, as I said, you get a couple minutes of the student thanking people. Sometimes that can run to another 3 minutes or more, as it did Friday. Sigh.
I realize that herding 13-year-olds can be hard and it's easy to fall into formulas, but I think they could go much more quickly to the commentary, allowing it to be deeper. What is so wrong with, e.g. "The story of the 12 spies teaches a lesson..." or "kashrut shows us that..." or whatever? You just read the portion, and it was translated; do you really need to spend 1-2 minutes retelling the story in your own words? Get to the original content!
(This isn't the kids' fault; I'm pretty sure it's what they've been taught to do, because they all do it.)
Perhaps I have unreasonably-high expectations of insight and scholarship. I hope I don't, though.
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