singular "they": a practical objection

[cellio]

Some folks at work have been having the discussion/argument about the use of "they" as a singular pronoun. This usually boils down to a religious argument and hey, I know better, but today I sent the following message:

[We should be trying to communicate clearly, and sometimes language rules prevent that.]

I agree. This is why, when conventional language rules would dictate something that would make my writing harder to understand, I violate those rules. For example, I only place terminal punctuation inside a closing quotation mark if it is in fact part of the quoted text, because to do otherwise misleads the reader and is logically incorrect. That's not how the language rules evolved, but (fortunately) that's becoming a more common practice within the field of technical writing, and eventually we may be able to drag the rest of the English-writing world along with us.

This argument does not apply to singular "they", however. Or if it does, it doesn't apply the way you think it does, at least for some readers. If I see a well-crafted sentence that completely avoids the problem, I don't find myself thinking "wow, that was really unclear; he should have just said 'they'". Because it's well-crafted, I don't notice. That's good; one of the jobs of technical writing is to get out of the way so people can understand what you're writing about. On the other hand, every time I see a use of singular "they" that (I think) could have been easily avoided, it derails me in my reading -- exactly as an incorrect "it's" does. It distracts me from what I was doing -- absorbing communication -- and draws my attention to the writing itself. Further, that attention is negative; it lowers my opinion of the author or company whose work I'm reading. None of this is conscious and I can't will it away. I know I am not the only such reader.

While we should not necessarily write to the lowest common denominator, if one choice results in clear communication to everyone and another does not, we should follow the one that does, even if it's a little more work on our part. So quite aside from the (very real) religious arguments against singular "they", I hold that there is a practical reason to avoid it: it derails some readers and is not necessary.

Comments

[bhakti.livejournal.com]

I suppose I'm resistant to the idea that crafting a well-written sentence in the current linguistic culture requires absolute avoidance of the need for gender-neutral singular pronouns. During my graduate studies, I frequently wrote papers on theories from the social sciences, which inevitably involved descriptions of hypothetical social scenarios. I could restructure sentences up to a point, but in longer discussions, this quickly got unwieldy. In most cases, I ended up either using the "one"/"one's" approach (an awkward and oddly limited form), or falling back to the current norm of alternating between masculine and feminine pronouns (which works well enough if there will be multiple examples, but still seems to be dodging the issue).

As for "it": it's amusing that this option is rarely even mentioned. I think you're right about the cultural stigma, though I'd say it's more accurate to call it a connotation of the word: "it" is used strictly in reference to non-socially-recognized entities, be they inanimate objects, animals, or small children. The distinction is particularly clear in reference to animals and children, where "it" may be used to refer to strangers (psychologically, non-persons), but it is normal to shift to "he" or "she" once the speaker gets to know the subject. Because of this, any attempt to use "it" to refer to an adult person inevitably implies a devaluing of that person. That barrier makes it a hopeless case, in my view; any proposed gender-neutral pronoun needs to sound more polite than the existing options, or it will never be accepted.

[cvirtue.livejournal.com]

Agreed: "It" is definitely for nonpersons. And combining it with the first letters of she and he would only produce "shit" which while amusing to me, would not advance the cause.

[cellio]

That's a good point. "It" will never become acceptable because of that connotation; people would perceive an insult where none was intended. There is no good alternative, unfortunately; none of the fabricated words like "zie" have caught on. (I've never been able to bring myself to use the new attempts at pronouns; for some reason they just feel goofy to me.)