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cellioWe "always" go to Toronto for Pesach. This year Dani's sister and her family will be spending Pesach elsewhere, which would complicate things for us. First, that's who we stay with when we go up there; second, I predict a lot of bored twiddling-of-thumbs were we to go up this year, as each parent (they're divorced) has seder preparations to worry about and (in one case) a lot of other relatives to deal with. We spend a fair bit of the time with our hosts when we go up, and that seems to work well for everyone.
Dani's sister suggested that we could take this opportunity to do something different, and I'm inclined to agree. Dani is, in principle, willing to not go for Pesach (if we then go some other time when everyone's there, which is fine -- the sister has a round-number birthday this year, so maybe for that). The problem, though, is what to do for the seder(s).
A large part of the appeal of staying home is that I could -- for once -- lead a seder myself. But Dani is opposed to the idea of us holding a seder. That means going elsewhere, if I can't persuade him to change his mind -- and if he's already giving in on not going to Toronto, I don't want to push him too far on that. My preferences for a seder are: (1) includes all the parts; (2) consists of people who want to be there; (3) is participatory. (The ones we usually go to fail one or more of those criteria, but you make exceptions for the sake of family relations.) Dani's preferences seem to be (1) people he knows and (2) not extremely religious.
I'm not sure what this will end up meaning yet.
But hey, I learned something: Dani does consider the seder important; it's not just a family thing. I didn't know that.
Dani's sister suggested that we could take this opportunity to do something different, and I'm inclined to agree. Dani is, in principle, willing to not go for Pesach (if we then go some other time when everyone's there, which is fine -- the sister has a round-number birthday this year, so maybe for that). The problem, though, is what to do for the seder(s).
A large part of the appeal of staying home is that I could -- for once -- lead a seder myself. But Dani is opposed to the idea of us holding a seder. That means going elsewhere, if I can't persuade him to change his mind -- and if he's already giving in on not going to Toronto, I don't want to push him too far on that. My preferences for a seder are: (1) includes all the parts; (2) consists of people who want to be there; (3) is participatory. (The ones we usually go to fail one or more of those criteria, but you make exceptions for the sake of family relations.) Dani's preferences seem to be (1) people he knows and (2) not extremely religious.
I'm not sure what this will end up meaning yet.
But hey, I learned something: Dani does consider the seder important; it's not just a family thing. I didn't know that.
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Date: 2006-02-28 12:20 am (UTC)