cellio | Sh'loshim

My dad's funeral was 30 days ago. For some reason, Judaism counts the first days of mourning from the funeral not from the death, even though the annual commemoration (yahrzeit) counts from the death. Dad wasn't Jewish but I am, and I find our markers in time to be helpful.

Dad was part of a small music group for many years. They were all friends, as you expect in small long-running groups, and the director spoke at the funeral. Later, when I started going through his email looking for things that require action, I found out she has a newsletter and had posted about him. I recognize a lot of that, so I think this is what she read at the funeral.

My dad made a huge difference in my life and in the lives of my mom, sister, and niece -- and I'm learning about some of the other people he also touched deeply.

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bikergeek

I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences.

shewhomust

I am glad that you have these moments of learning new things about your father - it's something I have valued very highly in my time, and hope it is as helpful to you.

magid

::pebble::

I assume that the counting from the funeral is because shiva can't happen until after that, and shiva to shloshim is all on the same one-off mourning timeline, rather than the cyclic mourning/remembrance of yahrtzeits.

I hope that these memories of your dad offered by other folks are a comfort.