Sunday dinner, and reciprocation, and stuff

[cellio]

At Sunday dinner I made a comment that I fear might have come off wrong. We were talking about this group that Dani and I have dinner with sometimes, and how one participating couple hasn't been taking their turn when it comes around.

I don't keep a scorecard on these things; it was more of an observation than a complaint. I actually like to have people over for dinner (I think I'm a competent cook and I like to exercise that skill). I wish that we were doing more to reciprocate on the Sunday dinners, but I suspect that Ralph doesn't want to rotate the location. (Tell me if I'm wrong.) That leads to the need to find additional free nights, which can be a challenge.

I think the only reason the other case was noteworthy is that rotation is explicitly part of the ground rules of that group, unlike the more casual invitation of friends for a random dinner, or the more fixed "Ralph and Lori host Sundays" rule.

Comments

[ralphmelton.livejournal.com]

When the Sunday dinner tradition (okay, the Sunday dinner tradition I've been perpetuating) started back in 1995, It was a rotation between two houses. But then the other house dropped out, and I carried on the tradition by inviting new people.

I think it was semi-rotating in 1996--sometimes we'd have it at another house, but not as often as I hosted it.

At some point, it just became easier to maintain the tradition as a tradition of us always hosting dinner than as a rotating thing.

(And I note also that when we've been unable to host, you've stepped up to host, and that's fabulous. Thanks again for doing that.)

[indigodove.livejournal.com]

I don't keep a scorecard on these things; it was more of an observation than a complaint

This was obvious to me when the discussion happened. However, when I say something like that, I generally fear being misunderstood too...

In my opinion, you're welcome to come early, cook, or anything else you like :-)