cellio: (moon-shadow)
I spoke with my rabbi this morning. He had already heard a little of what happened Saturday, though I'm not sure what or from whom.

He re-affirmed that the lines of authority run from him (and the associate rabbi) to me and, if I choose, to anyone I explicitly delegate to. So I am within rights to make decisions like the one I did on Saturday, and he completely supports me. He agrees with me that ranty-guy's anger was way out of proportion to any perceived slight.

He urged me to adopt a new mantra if this happens again: "I will not be spoken to in this way". If ranty-guy goes off again, I will say that and, if he continues, walk away.

He thanked me for telling him about this (I had apologized for bothering him with it). He will follow up with ranty-guy. Also, he said, in the future I should feel free to use him ("perhaps you should take it up with the rabbi").

Have I said lately how great my rabbi is?
cellio: (moon-shadow)
Rosh Hashana went well for me, but I don't find myself having a lot to say about it. There are some bits of the liturgy that particularly struck me, and maybe later I'll get my machzor (high-holy-day prayerbook) and post them.

Shabbat morning I got a phone call from that day's torah reader, saying that she couldn't get there due to flooded-out areas between her house and the synagogue. I feel bad for her because she spent time learning the portion and now she can't use it until this time next year. She felt bad for leaving us in the lurch, and I tried to reassure her that it was obviously not her fault.

The rabbi couldn't stay today, so I suspected this would mean we wouldn't have a torah service, but then I said "hey, I read this portion last year; I wonder...". With ten minutes available to me to answer that question, I pulled out the tikkun and scraped the rust off of enough to make a valid torah reading. I wasn't going to be able to do all of it with that amount of time, but so long as you do at least three verses you can read torah. And I was able to do that, because (IMO) Ha'azinu is one of the easiest torah portions out there, and I'd done it before. When I got to shul I asked someone else to lead that part of the service and a third person to read the haftarah portion, because I didn't want to just take over myself. Remember those words; they'll be relevant later.

I mentally composed a d'var torah while walking to shul -- so it wasn't as polished as it might have been under better circumstances, but it was passable. I talked about the season and not the parsha directly. As my rabbi pointed out last week, this season is characterized by t'shuvah (repentance, or return), s'lichah (forgiveness), and kapparah (atonement). We've talked about the first and the last but not as much about the middle one. When we talk about forgiveness, we often focus on seeking it -- but we also have to be ready to grant it, when someone asks or even when the person doesn't ask. Sometimes the person who wronged you has no idea that he has done so, in which case he's not going to come to you. And sometimes the person knows he wronged you but he's not going to approach you and it's just not worth staying angry about it. So, I said, try to grant the possibility that the person might not know, and even if he doesn't, try not to carry minor grudges into the new year. It's just not worth it. Remember those words; they'll be relevant later.

One of the members of the group is a professor at a nearby college and is teaching a religion class this term. So, with advance notice to the rabbi, she brought about a dozen students to the service. The rabbi welcomed them and was extra-careful about giving page numbers, but otherwise did nothing special. Everything was going fine, and I assume the professor gave the students an overview of the service before she brought them.

problem: the return of ranty-guy )

But other than that the day went really well, and I received many compliments on my last-minute torah reading. After the ranty guy left I spoke with a freshman from Pitt who was there for the first time, and she said she really enjoyed the service and will be back. We also told her about Yom Kippur services, and it sounds like she's planning to come. She seems like a nice person; I'm glad the ranty guy didn't scare her off.

After services we went to Coronation (SCA event), giving a ride to a student who's in the choir. It took a long time to get there due to heavy traffic caused by closed roads, but it was a good event and it was fun to spend the time in the car chatting with a newer member. We also sat with two newer members at dinner (I hadn't met them before, though one of them had heard of me), and they are both nice people I hope to see more of. A lot of people in the SCA worry about getting new members, which often comes through big demos and the like. But retention has a lot to do with that kind of one-on-one contact, and it's what I enjoy more. I'm not all that interested in pitching the SCA to a boy-scout troop, but I'm very interested in chatting with folks who've already decided to get involved about what they want to do and helping get them pointed in the right direction.

The dinner at the event was really good. I like it when Johan cooks. :-) In addition to being talented, he takes care to make sure that everyone will be able to get enough to eat -- at many events vegetarians basically get bread, noodles, rice, and maybe a salad, but I ate quite well yesterday -- spinach quiche, salmon (ok, "regular" vegetarians wouldn't eat that), noodles with cheese, asparagus, salad, nuts, another cooked vegetable, and more. I didn't even save room for dessert, as it turned out.

Shabbat

May. 9th, 2004 05:24 pm
cellio: (shira)
Friday's musical service went well. It looked like we had at least 300 people there (maybe 350 or 400), which is a lot more than normal. The congregational choir sang, which was nice, and some other cantorial members of the cantor's family were there too. Fun night!

I had an interesting conversation with our cantor about the service (or services?) the worship commitee will need to lead this summer. She expects to be out on maternity leave then, so she said she's working on lining up substitutes. We talked about stage-management issues when none of the people on the bima are regulars, and while I don't remember how we got there, I ended up saying (in an appropriate context) that there are certainly members of the worship committee who could competently fill that role for one week, and she said she really wished we'd volunteer in that case, and I said "ok, then I'm volunteering". (I also said I'm not the only one who could, though I of course don't know who else would.) Dunno where it will go (if it does); she and the rabbi will need to have a talk. I had previously made such a comment to the rabbi (during the last cantor's maternity leave), and it went nowhere. But maybe that cantor wasn't on board with the idea. I have been trying very hard to avoid stepping on any toes; music at services is her domain and I don't want her (or the rabbi) to perceive me as pushy. On the other hand, I'd much rather have one of us than an outside singer who might or might not even be Jewish, and she agrees with me on non-Jews, so we'll see. (I think the previous cantor was more interested in having a good singer than in having a Jew. I personally don't think we should have non-Jews leading any part of services, and the congregation has gotten better about that, but we're not completely there yet.)

Saturday morning had one bit of frustration, and I have to have a conversation I'm not looking forward to. During the service we go around the circle so people can say the names of people they're saying kaddish for, and recently we've started to also go around saying names before saying the prayer for healing. One of the people there (who used to be a regular, then disappeared for most of a year, then started showing up again a few weeks ago) treated this as a bit of a political soapbox, saying he wanted to add the names of all the Iraqi prisoners to the list. Saying that much would have been fine; going from there into a rant about the despicable behavior of the people responsible, on the other hand, was inappropriate. I don't disagree that the assessment of the behavior, but the healing portion of a Shabbat service is not the time and place for political diatribes. He should have saved it for the informal conversation afterwards. (It doesn't help that this particular individual, err, really likes to hear himself talk, so he is never brief and on-point.) So I was annoyed (but not fast enough to stop it on the spot), and I could tell some others were annoyed, and I've received one email complaint already. (It's not really my minyan, but people see it as mine when the rabbi isn't there.) I'm tempted to send him email, which will allow me to choose my words carefully without having to interact with him in real time, but calling is probably the correct thing to do.

After services we headed to Johan and Arianna's for a meeting of the Pennsic camp. (This was mostly to decide if we need to make any infrastructure changes this year and to decide what projects to tackle. This year we're going to try for some box benches, to solve both seating and stuff-containment problems.) It seems we don't see each other as frequently as we used to, now that two are no longer coworkers and one has dropped out of the choir and so on, so it was nice to see everyone and just hang out. (Well, not everyone; the out-of-town contingent didn't make it in.)

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